Sorrowful story of a friend living with HIV
Today is World AIDS Day 2017 and i’m sharing a story of a female friend who was diagnosed with HIV, the three letters that have left her crestfallen, for which she was diagnosed positive ten months ago. Her heart wrenching story isn’t the first one I’ve written about, first one was five years ago, when a childhood friend lost her life after being infected with the virus by a bloke she met online.She is a victim of many millions of people around the world who are not told by their spouses of their HIV conditions and despite the progress in medication and falling stigmatization rates, testing for the human immunodeficiency virus is frightening to many, even with campaigns that offer discreet testing services. In my friends case, after being diagnosed with HIV in February this year, she found stigma and the opinions of others to be the hardest part of moving on with her life. She painfully narrated how her boyfriend deliberately infected her and when she tried to seek answers, she was met with venom and ended up being rejected by friends due to her status along with verbal abuse on various occasions. Her ordeal began when she met a guy out one evening last December and they had a casual relationship. They started seeing each other for a couple of weeks and after that initial period, on Valentine day date, the bloke became quite sexually aggressive which sparked fear in her. After that sexual intercourse incident, she sought advise from her friend who had invited both on that December evening event who advised her to not speaking to him again and seek immediate counseling. For her though, the hardest part was having the thought of being infected with HIV.Sadly, her fears were soon to be confirmed when she experienced unprecedented breakout of cold sores that left her bewildered as it was the first she had such. Her counsellor who happens to be her relative, advised her to have a sexual health test which showed she was HIV negative. In her narration, she says that thing however changed for the worse over the next few weeks to March she fell ill, started nauseating, pains, aches were followed by indescribable rash that covered her skin in days. That was the point her confidence was lost and felt something was wrong. Her next step was to reach out to her counselor who monitored her symptoms and in the end, she received the horrible news of her blood tests which showed her status had moved from HIV negative to HIV positive. She says that was when her ego was bruised forever, and since then, she has been turned down by friends and even distant relatives because she’s positive which has shattered her in a way she has never felt before. Luckily, she has Contador Harrison’s of this world who don’t stigmatize people living with HIV AIDS. Her biggest achievement since then she is very public about her status although that’s not the same for a lot of people out there. She describes that decision to attend that event as the worst in her life, more than even finding herself to be positive. Luckily, she has had lots of family support and friends including your blogger who have continuously helped her manage a period of being gobsmacked day in day out.”Contador Harrison I had no idea of what it meant to have HIV,” I assumed it was the end of my life and i’ll never be a human being again, she said.
Fortunately my counselor and family told me, it’s a really a manageable chronic illness where you take a couple of pills a day and i’ll have a normal life. But it was hard to be convinced as it took weeks for reality to sink in.When she regained her strength, her first thought was to contact the guy via email asking whether he knew his HIV status. What she got was a chain of emails telling her how he’s a clean, healthy bloke. Your blogger was able to see those emails, including one where he suggested that she could be the one who was HIV positive when they connected. The ruthless bloke even wrote that he’s from a family where no one has ever been infected with HIV and that its an African disease meant for Africans not whites like him and the gal. Worse still, he also shared an outrageous view that the hospital where she was tested doesn’t have capacity to test such diseases, a buffoonery idea bearing in mind anyone nowadays can buy a self testing kit from authorized medical facilities. My friend also received plenty of texts messages saying he can’t give her HIV and even described her as a whore if she has it. In a nutshell, the bloke has never admitted his fault but apparently at the time we were having this chinwag with her, the bloke was in a hospital ward receiving treatment as he’s defied medical practitioners advise to take anti-retroviral drugs to help stabilize his condition which is worsening by the day.Plans to pursue legal action and have the guy prosecuted hadn’t crossed her mind as she wants to move on with her life. She says most people aged below 35 years think that HIV is not something that can affect them as it does with over 35 years who are said to be naturally promiscuous. In her case, she says she was complacent when it came to the most important moment of her life. She hadn’t been in a relationship for more than four years and wasn’t seeing anyone which could have led to her naivety when the bloke came along.“I am paying for my ignorance and recklessness Contador Harrison and its really scary life,” she said. Her HIV status has disrupted and affected her on a day to day basis as the health is not the same as was before.Currently, she takes two pills a day which has an effect on her physically but generally she says living with HIV has had a minimal impact on her overall life. Therefore, she says those who know they have been infected by HIV in the early stages like with her case, are among the fortunate for they are likely be more careful for the sake of loved ones and themselves. In her remarks, she says knowing the condition early in life mean longer productive years ahead, whether or not it develops the acquired immune deficiency syndrome as long as there’s adequate access to treatment and those infected also need to remember antiretroviral therapy is just a treatment to improve the quality of life and not a cure. As we celebrate World AIDS Day 2017, lets not forget that decisions we make when it comes to relationships, can have a lasting impact on our lives.