Sexuality is about stimulation, plateau, orgasm and resolution

May 17, 2015

Experts define polygamy as having more than one wife.Although its less practiced than half a century ago, it is widely permitted by some customs, religions and even some countries regulations. No doubt that polygamous sexuality has been enjoyed by the husband and wives thanks to nurturing of deep affection to foster family welfare and happiness.Those not married like Contador Harrison on the other hand, having intimacy with illicit partners is adultery according to moralists which is specifically about sexuality and is forbidden by all religions, cultures and rules across the world. This means that polygamy dominated by illicit sexuality is banned but from an honest point of view it is widely practiced by men and women worldwide.Think of corporate sectors, political and social organizations and you’ll come across cases of adultery. When I was a tween, our teachers used to teach us about animal life and how mating is an instinct that unleashes the sexual drive in both males and females within the same period.For senescent members of the society like your blogger, we know enjoyment of satisfaction in animal sexuality is a shared experience rather than egoism.According to a documentary I watched on National Geographic Wild two years ago, animal sexuality is identical with reproduction, which is polygamous as well as polyandrous in nature. In fact according to research,no monogamy is found among animals because they lack proper intelligence in comparison to human beings.

The facts is that animal sexuality is mainly guided by instinct, and there are natural signals that ensure mating only takes place between adult animals and during fertile periods. Marriage, according to experts, is a physical and emotional bond between a man and a woman for the purpose of building a family based on belief based on religious affiliations.In human beings, single and married, one of the biological needs is to enjoy sexuality. Sexual enjoyment can be a solitary act, an act between a couple of the same sex or both sexes, and an act between more than two people. It can be a conscious or unconscious experience, enjoyed in the unconscious mind, dreams or fantasies.Research has shown that married couples often have sex while fantasizing about making love with an ex-lover or a prominent figure.Scientists have for long informed us that men’s sex drive is different from women’s. Men are sexually driven and capable of impregnating women until a very advanced age. According to a middle aged female friend, women experiences a waning sexual drive after menopause and cannot bear children at an old age. Men’s sexual urges can come at any time while women are most aroused during their fertile period. In some scientific books I’ve read, normally, men are sexually active and women passive.

Women can curb their drive but they become hard to control when sexually stimulated. A gynecologist I spoke to recently while working on this article told me that under normal conditions women can control their drive, so polyandry is very rarely practiced.There are four phases of sexuality according to him, stimulation, plateau, orgasm and resolution. According to the gynecologist, married couples or polygamous men try to synchronize the four stages in their sexual life.In reality, men most of the times lose control of their sexual drive, leading to intercourse with illicit woman partners. Those engaged in sex with illicit partners or committing adultery enjoy the four phases in an egoistic way by merely releasing their sexual urges.I also recently learned that commercial sex workers also experience it as mere routine instead of enjoying sexuality. There’s no argument that Polygamy through marriage is found in all parts of the world, but many people practice polygamy with their secretaries and close friends or through infidelity and even adultery. It is widely known that us men are engaged in sexual intercourse through adultery experience added value in terms of enjoyment. Boredom in having sex with legitimate partners can prompt infidelity or adultery.Our inability to restrain our sexual drive, followed by the fact that adultery gives us added value in sexual enjoyment, has become the starting point for polygamy.

Contador Harrison